We all get in situations where we wonder if we should express ourselves if we should state the truth the way we see it. Yet we may be reluctant to do it because we are afraid that others may disagree, or that they will criticize us, or that they will think ill of us. Or we simply wonder if what we want to say is accurate and, perhaps, wonder if we see it correctly. All these are forms of self-doubt that hold us back.


“I want to lose weight, and I can’t do it.”

“Will I find the right person to have a relationship with?”

“I want to start working out, but I’m afraid I’m going to give up again.”

“Where can I find strength now that I’m struggling?”


Tough times are unavoidable. Suffering is avoidable. You may be going through a rough patch in your life, but you don’t have to mean to yourself. Learn to speak encouraging and supportive words to yourself to get you through the tough situation. Cultivating a kind, reassuring, stimulating, internal dialogue, you allow yourself to connect to your inner strength; you allow yourself to see through the difficulty, and you provide the tools to get to the other side. Here’s a cheat-sheet with 50 empowering phrases to push past your troubles.

1. I allow myself to be afraid; it’s a feeling, not…


Bad things happen to good people. But it’s terrible when the good person is you. First, you need to figure out “why” something happened, why things had to turn out this way. And no matter what’s the answer, you still have the daunting task of coming back. You know that you need to stand up again and go on with life. But there are times when you don’t know where to start or what to do. You have grandiose plans that are just unrealistic. Here’s a list of 25 small, common sense things you can start doing for yourself to…


Physical isolation and social distancing is the new reality and, let’s face it; it’s not very pleasant. Our daily routine is disrupted, and we suddenly feel trapped. We can’t do many of the things we regularly did and that’s stressful and frustrating. There’s an added uncertainty about what will happen in the future, and that worries us. But we have the opportunity to do something in the present to get courage, strength, and resilience, and to overcome this difficult situation. Start your day asking yourself these seven empowering questions- and remember to answer them too!


There are times we need to make a risky decision. We don’t know the outcome. It could go either way. Is there a way to know which direction? No! Is there a way to know what’s best? No! Still, you need to make the decision. Even if it’s to do nothing. That’s a decision too. And then again, better to feel sorry about something you ‘ve done than feeling sorry for not having tried. So which way? I don’t know. I know what we all need to hear when we are about to make a risky decision.

I love you…


From “Hurray! Schools are closed!” to “Mom, am I going to die?” children and adolescents are already affected by the news, and the worldwide spread fears concerning the coronavirus. Kids have all kinds of worries around who will get sick, how bad that’s going to be if their parents or grandparents are going to be affected, if there are going to be deaths in the family… There are also concerns about their daily life, such as new policies around playdates, sleepovers, homework, screen time, video gaming, and the like. …


Everybody deals with difficult people in their lives, to a greater or lesser extent. However, the in the end of the spectrum is a whole different psychological species, the toxic people. These are very negative, emotionally draining, unsupportive people-they are basically people who constantly bring you down. They can be close to you, family, friends, or coworkers, without you realizing it, but spending time with them makes you feel bad about yourself and the world. Maybe you wonder why this sudden change in your mood and attitude when you are with these people; after all, they are friends or family…


If you don’t do it, who’s going to do it for you? Tell you daily five fundamental truths that can help you be your best and live the good life?

  1. I am my own amazing person

Dr. Liza Varvogli

Ph.D. in Psychology| Harvard-trained| Psychotherapist| Stress Management Professor|Parenting & Relationships Expert|Meditator|Positive thinker|Solution-oriented

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